What is wrong with me? I the last 3 weeks I have started paying for sex – 3x a day!?
It started with a visit to a Chinese massage joint about 3 weeks ago. Of course the establishment offered a happy ending and I obliged. A couple days later I visited another establishment (not Asian) that advertised as a health spa in the local alternative paper. This place offered full nude hot tub massages. I soon worked my way through all of the “therapists” and have settled on two different ones. In the last 10 days, I have started visiting a strip club after work as well. I have been visiting the Chinese place during my lunch time, then going to a local gentlemen’s club for private dances after work – and then visiting the full service “health” spa each night before bed. This has turned into a $600+ per day habit. I am less concerned with the money part and more concerned with what has suddenly “tripped my trigger”. I am a 36 year old male going through divorce. My urge to partake in these activities is seemly out of control. What is wrong with me? Will it stop?
Koleebear – seems you may be on to something. I greatly enjoy the holding, touching, warm breaths that come with the sessions more than the sexual climax.
jassy – I don’t know that I prefer these places or paying. I think it is more likely that the girls in these places know the experience I am looking for – and they provide it.
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17 comments
Melissa S on March 24, 2010 at 1:09 am
Seek help.
missing u2323 on March 24, 2010 at 1:52 am
go for help
ken on March 24, 2010 at 2:25 am
you just have too much money
? on March 24, 2010 at 2:54 am
no man…its great i ve done the same thing for 5 years but not everyday only 2 times a month or so….you learn stuff when you sleep with women like that is a good experience for a man…nothing wrong with it….its just experience only dont get too used to it or you will have psychologigal problems cause women are for loving not just sex…
TD J on March 24, 2010 at 3:16 am
Your going through a divorce your life has changed. You found an activity that relaxes you. You’ll stop once the money starts to run low and the excitement of going to the establishments gets tired.
duh!! on March 24, 2010 at 3:48 am
go to a MALE psychiatrist for help
koleebear on March 24, 2010 at 3:49 am
Honey, there is nothing wrong with you!
Being as u are going thru a divorce, its natural to want to explore what is out there w/o the worry of attatchment.
Seems you were sexually negleted for a while and now are making up for it.
Let it take its course, if money is not a worry then what the heck!
Enjoy it for as long as it may last but do monitor your finances as this, like any other addiction, can drain your bank account b4 u know it.
Harry on March 24, 2010 at 3:49 am
take part in activity sports and tire yourself.
paragliding
swiiming
mountaineering
running
long brisk walks
u get the idea
jassy on March 24, 2010 at 4:04 am
It’s the divorce thing. your doing a rebound thing with lots of girls .Was your sex life inadequate when you where with your wife? maybe that’s why. Or maybe , you just want to have sex all day long , and you don’t have any one to do it with , so you pay for it. Question is Do you prefer these places over a normal sexual relationship with one person that you don’t pay? You may have to go therapy if you want to stop this very addictive behavior.
Judy L on March 24, 2010 at 4:50 am
Sounds like a sex addiction. With the divorce and all, you’re going thru a wierd time. This is why they have therapists. See one.
parinda on March 24, 2010 at 5:43 am
enjoy enjoy enjoy , dont bother its natural
Bobby M on March 24, 2010 at 6:18 am
Man, I’m a 34 old male and going through a divorce and I have a solution for your problem. INTERNET PORN AND MASTORBATE 3X-DAILY! It works trust me!
laura s on March 24, 2010 at 6:22 am
Don’t know if it will stop, but if you are going through a divorce this is something new I’m assuming and anything different from what you had is a bonus, hey what ever feels good(within reason of course)
columbo on March 24, 2010 at 7:19 am
Hmmm 36 year old male going through a divorce, well my friend there is your answer. this sounds like a need for attention, affection, and love. the desire to feel needed and wanted. You are falsely thinking that this is giving you this. there are far less expensive ways of doing this Hun trust me I have been through a divorce and did some weird things LOL. This urge you have if you look at it is not about the sex, its about been with people who make you feel special, having someone touch you in a way that you had forgotten existed. On a more sinister note, you do need to stop this, if it turns into an obsession you re in trouble my friend. This can lead to all sorts of out of character behavior. May I be as bold to suggest you seek out a new hobby to fill this void you have right now. Join a local golf club to photography club or anything that interests you. Do not join a dating agency you are so not ready for another relationship, both of you will end up been hurt.Find something constructive to fill this void. Good luck
michelle 2 on March 24, 2010 at 8:15 am
you anwers your own question i will point it out for you i am a 36 year old male going through a divorce. get help
your noon on March 24, 2010 at 8:48 am
I fully agree with koleebear’s response
Joyce K on March 24, 2010 at 8:49 am
OY! you’re addicted! no actually you’re trying to dull the pain of the divorce and cover it up with a physical “high”. of course it is empty because there is no emotional fullfillment in it. i’m not sure if i would continue this behavior because of the cost, the health risk, but also because eventually, you’ll come down and realize that it didnt help with what you’re going through. you need to face the pain now, not later. try and get some counseling, talk to someone about how you’re feeling about the divorce. sometimes its worth paying the 600 a day to talk to someone versus just feeling good for an hour. the high will last longer. God will help you get through this. Just ask him for his help. Blessings to you and it will be ok. you’ll survive. i know because i’ve been there.