Sexually violated or lucky?
When I was in my early teens and my family was living in Europe – back in the 1960’s I became friends with a local girl whose parents owned a resort/spa and she invited me to use the services as her guest. Well to make a very long story short I was massaged by a couple of women who provided me with a lot more than a back rub. I always enjoyed my visits there and they seemed to have fun too.
Nowadays those women would be considered terribly criminal for engaging in sexual activity with a boy barely into his teens. Personally, I never felt violated, in fact felt extremely lucky to have such great teachers introduce me to the world of lovemaking. more than that they demonstrated that humans were a whole person including sexuality and they simply celebrated my youthful sexual response to touch as normal and healthy.
So my question is are there others out there – male or female who found early and perhaps socially unacceptable sexual activity to be a positive experience in their life?
Second, is it just guys that feel this way? Is there a double standard in that a young lady in similar situations is violated and young man is simply lucky?
How has it impacted me? I am acutelly aware of pleasuring my partner. I have had a successful 20+ year marriage. I do think Americans are too hung up on sex and far too afrraid of nudity, but then again I grew up in Europe where I saw my females friends nude on the beach so there really wasn’t much mystery about them and less sex happening between teens back then than I think we have here these days.
Contessa,
They were much older – I would guess lmid twenties to mid thirties. I was 13 that year like the daughter of the owner I was friends with.
I am sure the women there serviced other customers as part of thier service or as an extra service. I suspect that with usual clients some cash was exchanged.
I know, well don’t know, but I am as certain as i can be that my female friend recieved the same type of services because the first day she took me there the sounds from the room she went to indicated she was being pleasured by the owmen taking care of her as well, although my understanding of same sex female to female sex was not developed at the time so I really didn’t think about what this meant until much later..
As far as your guess i think it was accurate. I was a pet of the staff – a novelty – a young american boy and they all seemed delighted to teach me nor was the pelasure one way. They taught me how to pleasure their bodies as well. I learned a lot!
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14 comments
rhy.star on March 31, 2010 at 6:45 pm
well since u didnt resist, u werent violated and i wish i had your childhood
Joey on March 31, 2010 at 7:19 pm
The double standard definitely comes into play here. I would say that you got lucky. However, if you were a chick, I’d say that you were molested.
alex on March 31, 2010 at 7:49 pm
U LUCKY SOB!!!!!!!!!
2kool4u on March 31, 2010 at 8:37 pm
Europe has more liberal standards than the US and in the sixties they were probably more liberal than they are now.
Hannnah:) on March 31, 2010 at 9:17 pm
its not sexually violated if its the willing.
so i guess i would say lucky
Angie on March 31, 2010 at 9:40 pm
Even if a guy enjoyed this type of thing it can still be harmful. It can be very damaging in his future relationships. His expectations can possibly be way too high, he may feel as if he is never satisfied like he was in his youth causing him to cheat or end up in relationship after relationship.
There is definitely a double standard. Violation is simply the point of view of the supposedly victim. If he/she feels violated, then it is violation. If not, then it’s not.
limaye.aashish on March 31, 2010 at 10:10 pm
You ARE THE CHOSEN LUCKY ONE. I WISH I WERE YOU.
Kbeezy on March 31, 2010 at 11:02 pm
As a chick, I can say I personally would feel violated unless they were super hot! lol… If you don’t feel like it was a violation then that’s you. I’d be pissed as hell if I knew some older woman was feeling up my teenage son whether he enjoyed it or not! There’s a double standard to consider
Shell on March 31, 2010 at 11:06 pm
there is a double standard for sure in that i had to think about your story but if the same happened to a girl it would be obviously a violation. about your experience i think it depends on the way you feel/felt about it
Nyx on March 31, 2010 at 11:46 pm
If it is consensual, and the parties involved know enough to make such decisions, then no, it is not wrong. I’ve known cousins and siblings who lost their virginity to each other. While incest, it was people they trusted to not hurt them.
I don’t believe it is just men who feel like this. But society has painted women as damsels in distress for a very long time, and likewise, men are portrayed as horn dogs.
Keep it Real!! on April 1, 2010 at 12:02 am
Well Ur rite there is a veiw or Public belief that is considered a Double Standard in some countries.
Most men see them selfs as getting LUCKY or not abuseed in their diffinition in what abuse may mean too them…
As a society, Generally now days the studies over the decades have actually shown boys can be just as harmed in the same way and have the same mental issues with it… As the girls do!
In the 60’s, it was less talked about and in that time error sex was seen as a freedom as well! It does effect you wether you may no it or not… It shows up in other ways.. like your choices in woman or a mate! ummm it can be a negitive as well. there was lots of testing done in this area and believe it or not it has effect your choices as you have been an adult…. Thank you…
dingo60 on April 1, 2010 at 12:40 am
There’s a very simple reason there is a double standard. Girls get pregnant, boys don’t.
Merry Christmas! on April 1, 2010 at 12:41 am
Depends, if you are a 15 year old boy and in a class taught by the hot 22 year old teacher and they have sex, if he thinks he did a good job and doesn’t feel bad about it, or if they both consented, it’s still illegal, but she has given him unshakable confidence. Of course it goes both ways too, so keep that in mind.
Happy Christmas Eve
-Billy
contessa on April 1, 2010 at 1:29 am
Well, reading your story explains a lot of things. People in Europe, do have a more relaxed attitude toward sex. You said that you were in your early teens. How old were the girls?
If they were in their teens, sexual activity, would have been okay; as long as it was consensual and monogamous. In some countries girls get married at 12, or younger. If you did learn how to make love to a woman, then the experience was positive and I would consider you lucky.
Sex is a good thing and people have always participated in it since the beginning of time. That would explain how we got here. But I tend to think that you were not their only customer.
They may have adored you; and I do believe that you were adorable back then and you probably still are. They probably did that for a living and you were just there at the right time to receive that special treat!